As a mortgage broker, I meet many people from all walks of life and I have the privilege of being able to listen to their stories, whether it be their success story, life story (good or bad) or doom story. By this point in my career, there’s nothing that I haven’t heard. What I’ve noticed is a common difference from the great empowering stories and the not-so empowering ones. I’m really intrigued by what makes people click and personal development is something I love to explore and test.
Although I’ve found many principles of so called personal development gurus to be the same with a different spin, I’ve been able to extract certain principles that I’ve used in my personal life which has worked for me. The one I wanted to discuss with you today is related to people’s stories or better yet… what is your story?
So…. What’s Your Story?
There are two spectrums of the “What’s your story” and you are either on one side or the other.
First, there’s being in a positive state mindset and looking for the good in everything that happens to you. This state enables people to see that everything that happens to you is not good or bad. It’s just the way it has to be. This enables you to see, that from every disaster, something good comes out of it and that we are not that smart to know whether a given circumstance or situation is actually good or bad.
Let me refer to the story of the Chinese man whose son fell off a horse and was unable to train and ride for 6 months. This man when approached by his family and friends with sadness in their eyes replied to them “who knows what is good and what is bad?” With confusion on their faces, they proceeded to walk home. The next day, the army came to the village to recruit young men to go to war but didn’t take the man’s son because of his broken leg. I’m sure you get the point of the story and it goes on and on to show how this principle is actually very true.
When you are on this side of the spectrum and your thoughts are as such, your story is empowering and you conquer anything that comes your way. Your state elicits immediate action and an empowering story where you will easily find the strategy to get things done.
When you begin on the the other end of the spectrum which is the strategy, it’s a completely different story. These people discuss all the different things they think they have to do to acquire a specific result. The story drags on as to why they can’t eat healthy and how it’s too expensive or how it’s so hard to go to the gym and get in shape. They give a million reasons why their credit is not good and why they have collections registered on their bureau and why they will never be able to afford the house of their dreams. When you approach anything from this mindset, you will have a million excuses and your story will sabotage everything because you’re telling yourself why it won’t work before you even try to attempt it.
The story is the basis of our psychology. Everyone has a story which either propels them forward or holds them back. Make your story one that you won’t regret when you look back on your life in your later years. Get out and play the game the way it was meant to be played and stop listening to the bullshit stories you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve greatness.
You get one kick at the can, make it worth it.
Broker of Record & Mortgage Gladiator